So tonight I was on Facebook and was scrolling through some news stories when I happened upon a picture of a girl holding a 3x5 card that said the following:
"I have nobody..
I need somebody..
:("
Did a little digging because of the name of who posted it. The picture of the girl is apparently a picture of someone who committed suicide recently... because of? Bullying. Now is that necessarily a valid statement? Not really but that's not really what I'm writing about. The thing that got me going was the caption and the comments....
Caption: "who would have been there for her?"
Now I get what the person is trying to say but it made me mad... The comments section was kind of uplifting... In the fact that everybody said that they would have. But my immediate response to the caption was "Why weren't you?" and I was very tempted to type that but I didn't out of respect, and because honestly I don't know the girl. I'm not going to pretend like I know the whole entire story. So instead, I read through the comments section. 96 comments... All within the last hour and a half of me writing this blog. Let me tell you guys, comments made me sick
"I would have if it were possible" (same school same grade as the girl)
"I would have." (person she hung out with most frequently)
"she made mistakes but I would have." (bully)
"naw! Ima ratshit." (learn grammar! Random person from the same state)
The comments continued.
"Rest in peace _________(if you are) kids pay attention..."
So on and so forth. Then i fumbled upon a comment that said what I was thinking.
"y'all are faking. You knew her and you did nothing. You were close to her and said nothing. Didn't protect her. Didn't help her. Didn't care. Why is it that suicide suddenly makes people think they care? If you were there why didn't you do anything?!?!"(brother)
The comment was kind of a shock amongst all the "we love you and miss you"s and the like. But it was what I was almost hoping someone would have the nerve to say.
If you see someone being bullied, do something. Don't wait for someone else to. I'm not in high school anymore but I saw my fair share. I still see it even today as an adult. Why aren't you doing anything to stop it? Why are you joining in at times? "Because it's funny and they know we don't mean it." Do they? "it was just a joke... They don't need to get all bent out of shape over it." So you wouldn't care if someone said the same to you?
Why is it, people, that we suddenly care when we are too late to do anything about it? Why does everyone become the persons "best friend" when they aren't breathing anymore? Answer is.... Guilt. Arrogance. Fear of looking like filth. I know probably a lot of those people were people that never met the girl and just stumbled upon the page because a friend of theirs did the same as one of mine did. (side note: if you don't even know the person please don't act like you do. Possibly don't even comment.) To all you reading... Guys I don't know her story. I don't know the circumstances. I don't know if it is a hoax like a few who posted think. I do know that all who "faked friendship," probably missed out on an amazing girl. Who yes, made mistakes, but who still was worth a second chance, and was worth getting to know.
Flood my inbox either on Facebook or fusesandtimedelays@hotmail.com with hate if you want but please think about what I said.
Bullying ends when you take the first action against it. Don't wait for the right time. Don't be a fake "when it's just you and me" type of friend.
"I have never met anyone who wasn't important." Everyone deserves to be known, loved, cherished, given a second chance, and to feel as special and beautiful as they truly are.
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