The laws of attraction & love in the third degree

God created every human, man and woman, beautiful in their own unique and perfect way. To all men God gave strength and the ability to do work. He gave the same attributes to women but tweaked them just a tad. He made them a little weaker in the area of strength so that they could be dependent on their fathers and husbands. He also gave them beauty something that men have inwardly but not necessarily outwardly.
There are many things that are attractive about women. But, as a Christian guy there are a few things that stand out to me more than others and there are a few different areas that these fall in.

Personality...

One of the most attractive things about a woman is her personality. Men are drawn to someone who is kind and caring, not necessarily boisterous and loud but at the same time not someone who is silent and completely reserved. Not every one is going to have a perfect "winning personality." But your personality is a very large key in attraction. I was very drawn to my girlfriend by how she acted in public. Her tone and actions toward others spoke volumes. She has always been very kind to others and myself no matter what the conversation may be about.
Another attribute of a personality is the ability to listen. Truly listen.

Emotionally...

Another way that God gifted women was that they are more in touch with their emotions than guys are. This actually can be a very good thing, but it also can have its down side. Men at time can be very clueless and just fumble around with their emotions. Another very attractive thing in a woman is how well she can use/control her emotions. Of course this should be something that anyone should look for in a man or a woman, so from both sides.
It is also important to be able to show emotion. Nobody wants a robot as a spouse or significant other. Being able to show your emotions is very important from both sides so that you can help each other through them.
I am not always the best at displaying my emotions correctly.. I am one of those guys who doesn't always know what to do with myself when I get frustrated. My girlfriend is very helpful in this area. She is always very good at reminding me that God is in control and she is also very good at just calming me down.
No one is going to be perfect at controlling their emotions but learning to control them is key in anybody and is very attractive in a woman.

Spiritually...

I kind of hinted at this next area in the last section. Something that is very attractive to Christian guys is a girl's relationship with Christ. There is a quote that my bible teacher had painted on his wall that has stuck with me and that I will never forget...

"a woman should be so lost in God that a man has to be searching for Him to find her..."

This quote is very true. Ladies, your relationship with Christ is one of the most attractive features you will have to a Christian guy.


Side note: Throw out any ideas you have of missionary dating. 8 to 9 times out of 10 that will not work and or have the opposite result. "do not yoke yourself with an unbeliever."

Christian guys are looking for a girl who can encourage them on a personal level but also a spiritual level. It is important for us to remember that God is in control and that we aren't. Just don't hold that over our heads please.

Physically...

Alright. The last thing a guy should be attracted to or in other words the last thing he should be looking for in a woman is her physical beauty. He should be looking at all those other areas first, because outward beauty is something that every woman has.
Lodge this thought in your head and never forget it. EVERY woman is beautiful. No matter what age, shape, hair color, etc. Every woman is beautiful.
When it comes to physical beauty one thing that attracted me to my girlfriend was her modesty. She does not flaunt her body wherever she goes and she doesn't wear the flashiest clothes in the universe. She knows what looks good and what doesn't. But in that "it looks good" category, she keeps it modest. Which makes her look very elegant and beautiful.
I'm not saying wear skirts ALL the time. If that is what you prefer more power to you but I am not saying no pants, only skirts and dresses.
Being modest in itself very beautiful because it allows a guy to focus on your personality and character more than your physical attributes. Again he should be drawn to everything else about you first and then be drawn to your beauty.

A letter to Natalie

Hello my love,

I simply wanted to take a moment and tell you (and everyone else who reads this) how much I love you.
You are amazing, incredible, simply fantastic really. You amaze me every day by just how wonderful, kind, caring, and truly amazing you are. Every day I am overjoyed and amazed to find another new reason why I love you. Why you are so amazing. You truly are my best friend in the entire world. You are the best thing that has ever happened to me. Truly. I would be lost without you darling <3
Thank you for everything you do for me. You are truly wonderful.
And by the way you are incredibly beautiful and adorable.

I love you.

I know your day has been hard. :( I am right here to help whenever you need me :3 I love you so so much <3

Signed
Forever and eternally yours
Chad<3